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What do you do if you have moved from a bad dept to another one that is worse?

The manager was difficult in previous dept and the secretaries are difficult in new dept. Do you stay or leave?

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Date Posted: 2013/06/30
Lubna Al-Sharif
by Lubna Al-Sharif , Medical Laboratory Technician , Nablus Specailized Hospital

Dear Jennifer, ==You've mentioned a recurrent situation and the main reason behind quitting one career and searching for job substitution in stead.
I a not glossing over how difficult this can be, BUT before we take our decision from the possible choices: Bering Difficult manager or Difficult colleagues, OR Quitting our job, We have to reconsider the following issues to declare the situation and to clarify my thoughts: =1= Employer - Manager - Work Relationship: --- Sometimes we have the pleasure of working with a manager we really like and respect, and who respects us too.
Other times, the relationship isn't so great, and we have to deal with someone we can barely tolerate.
--- Still, with the job market being what it is, you don't want to just quit every time you work for someone you don't get along with.
Here's how to grow a thicker skin at the office and learn to deal with a boss you may not want to see every morning.
=2= My boss is a bad manager or a bad person ?: -a-- Bad Manager term: it implies that he doesn't give you the direction, priorities, and guidance you need to succeed at your job.
If your boss is just a bad manager, you can functionally compensate for their issues with planning and structure.
-b-- Bad Person term; It is a highly subjective way of saying the two of you don't see eye-to-eye for personal reasons.
If your issue with your boss is one of personality, your job will require some perspective-checking on your part.
-- Still, there are ways through both problems, but you're not going to make any headway at all if you're not clear on which issue you're facing.
=3= Who Your Colleagues Are: -- It's essential to understand the difference between a colleague who is being unhelpful or frustrating, and one who is bullying you, or preventing you from doing your job.
-- Then look at the behavior itself; note how the behavior affects you, your colleagues, and your organization.
Does it affect your ability to do your job? Does it harm an individual in your team? Does it harm your organization's mission? Or does it affect the team's cohesiveness? -- Start by thinking about why you don't like this person.
What does he or she do, specifically, that irritates you? It's possible that the negative or annoying behavior reminds you of a specific trait that you have yourself and that you don't like.
=3= Find Out If You're Part of the Problem: -- Here's a question you probably don't want to ask yourself: are you the problem here? Remember, everyone's the hero of their own story, and everyone believes they're the party in the right.
-- Your manager is no different.
Step back for a moment and ask yourself if you're contributing to the poor relationship.
-- Many frustrated employees may just be oversensitive to the criticisms and natural flow of their workplace.
For example, if you're caught up in the tone or approach your boss uses to discuss things, you miss the message underneath.
If you're simply reacting to your boss instead of responding to the issues they bring up, you're probably letting your emotional responses get the better of you.
=4= Our Boss and our colleagues are not our choice: -- You don't even get to just quit when you run up against someone you don't really like working for.
-- You have to adapt, adjust, and find a way to figure out your differences and move on.
-- Granted, working in a corporate department isn't the same as being in the service, and remember, you're not at work to make friends.
It can be great to make friends at work, and you should try if you can, but you need to separate whether you like your boss from whether you can learn to respect their position =6= Still We Are Humans: -- When we ask the resigned employees about what traits made someone a "bad boss," most of them had common refrains: their boss didn't respect them, or had never earned their respect.
Their boss wasn't qualified to do their jobs, much less manage them.
Their boss was terrible at communicating, or setting expectations or priorities.
-- These are all difficult to overcome, but getting past them starts with at least respecting the fact that they're your manager.
That doesn't mean accepting everything they do, or even respecting them as a person, but it does mean accepting and understanding that you have to work with this person somehow.
The rest is small stuff you can work through.
=7= Help Yourself to Cope and to Overcome Dislike : -a- If your boss stresses you out and makes you angry, you might benefit from simple office-friendly stress relief tricks like meditation, deep breathing for10 seconds, or taking a walk to calm yourself before responding.
If your boss is right in front of you and you're getting angry, try to intercept your emotional response and let them know you'll respond appropriately later.
-b- Find a mentor, or another manager you can look up to.
A mentor, even a manager in another department, can often help you understand your boss's pressures and challenges in a non-threatening way.
They may be willing to level with you in a way your boss isn't.
-c- No matter who you are or where you work, there will be a time when you have to work with, or do business with, someone you don't like.
This person may be a client, a consultant, a colleague, or your boss.
-d- Negative relationships like this can take their toll.
It's likely that you'll find it stressful working with these people; they may reduce your productivity by wasting your time and energy, or upset you with unhelpful comments.
Working with them could leave you feeling emotionally drained or frustrated; and, longer term, they could even cause you to want to leave your job.
-e- If you can learn how to work effectively with them, you'll reduce your own stress, and enjoy work far more.
This ability can also open up projects and roles that you may not have considered before.
This person might have several character traits that you dislike.
But, chances are, he or she also has many positive attributes.
What are they? What behaviors or personality traits do you like or relate to? -f- Practice empathy: put yourself in this person's shoes.
Why might this person act in the way that he or she does? What pressures is this person under that you aren't? Use the Perceptual Positions tool to try to understand this person's perspective.
I hope that I made myself clear, and gave you some choices that may change your mind concerning job quitting.
Best Wishes, Lubna al-Sharif

Thank you for the response.
The question is not personal to me but on behalf of several other expats who are frustrated with the work ethics they have come across.
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