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Why do people with depression push others away?

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Question added by Zain Khater , Project Supervisor – StartUp Project , Injaz
Date Posted: 2016/12/08
Taj Mohamed
by Taj Mohamed , ASSISTANT CREWING MANAGER , PENTA OCEAN CONSTRUCTION PTE LTD

In normal circumstances, a person who is surrounded by loved ones, family and friends will seldom get depression.  Surrounded by such friendly people, it will be easier to talk about problems or keep occupied so that depression does not creeps in.   When this pillar of support is lacking or missing, then they burden themself with the stress and this will lead to having mental instability or depression.   So to me a person with depression does not push people away, he pushed people away before going into depression and once he is in depression, it is better to have people at a distance.

Sarah Ali
by Sarah Ali , Senior Evaluation Specialist , United Nations

When a person is having a depressive episode, it's difficult to be there for other people. Talking is out of the question. Sometimes thinking gets that way, too. It's a very dark, self-absorbed space that seems to go on endlessly. The depressed person has just enough energy, usually, to deny loved ones the horrible experience of witnessing that level of mental and emotional anguish by sending them away. Partners, family members, friends may want to help, but for the most part, they can't.  It is a disease that needs treatment from board certified and experienced medical and therapeutic professionals. They can help by taking the depressed person to doctor and therapy appointments, as long as they understand that there probably won't be much conversation.   Sometimes, the only thing anyone can do is sit with the person for a little bit, if it is tolerated by both people.  A precaution: don't ask, "Do you want to talk about it?" The response might not be very pleasant. 

 

If the person refuses to get professional help, it might be a good time to consult with someone in the mental health profession to see what would else could be done to help the person recover. 

navida  tabbsum
by navida tabbsum , clinical psychologist, speech and language therapist, coordinator , child dream centre

depression is a issue, conflict state of mind, having lods of emotional feeling that innovate behavior negative most of the time. people with depression push others away due to their disrupted state of mind that needs to understand. 

because of sad mood. people with depression are genrally socially dysfunctional that's why they avoid people and social gathring..

Fathima ALLY
by Fathima ALLY , tutor and lecturer , Unisa

One of the common symptoms of depression is withdrawal-which entails -more often than not-to isolate oneself, from family and friends. they feel incapable to interacting with others well-due to embarasement/humiliation.

They are clearly not coping with their relationships well.

The indication of low serotonine is resposible for the low mood, and associated with this is loneliness/ withdrawal from others. 

They just dont feel well enough to fit in with others. some of them avoid conflicts, hence stay away from others.

 

MUHAMMED ISMAIL
by MUHAMMED ISMAIL , LECTURER , HIGHER COLLEGE OF TECHNOLOGY

Depressed people not always push others.Most of the cases may seek attention of others at the initial stage.

simon kiiru
by simon kiiru , MEDICAL DIRECTOR , GERMAN MEDICAL CENTER

Because they want to be alone. DEPRESSION in essence dictates for a person to be sorrowful and its not infrequent to find a person with depression to state that, '' you dont know what I am going through"

the hormones associated with Depression cause a Decrease in the amount of energy available to some on  e with Depression and being alone the person is unlikely to use alot of energy.

wissal anouti
by wissal anouti , Business English Instructor , Lebanese University

 

To answer this question in a philosophical way and beyond psychology, I have to say that a depressed person is a person set in thinking mode. A depressed person is ultimately processing a negative matter, i.e. he/she is processing a loss from his/her view point. It could be failure, death, regret, self-assessment etc...

 

 

And while assessing these negative matters, you are assessing your life, your reality, your achievements etc… the problem is the assessed product is blurred with negativity because the depressed does not like the outcome. And just like any normal person thinking deeply about any matter doesn't like to be interrupted or distracted so is the depressed person who's naturally in a self-reflection phase contemplating serious and fateful matters. Consequently, they prefer to be left alone, pushing others away because in order to explain what's wrong to others they need to assimilate it themselves on their own. Thus the need for loneliness.

Its is very individual.Some poeple avoid others for the sake of not getting hurt agian. Some time poeple are experiencing emotional embalance so they avoid others to focus on their own thought processes. 

gourab chakraborty
by gourab chakraborty , assistant professor , sdet - brainware group of instituitons

i think most of the people , suffering from depression, they also suffer from inferirty complex. they think everyone else is far more better stage than his or her. they try to make an invisibe and inpenetrable shell in which they think they are safe. thus the pushing.

As far as my openion matters, people become depressed when they have lot of things that are worrying them, have plans that are not met by them, problems that are not been communicated or feelings that are not easy to expressed. In all the situations, a person needs a good listner to communicate without the fear of being judged. However, when these things are not communicated, the person becomes depressed and push others away just not to let the things being expressed considering what others will think of him.

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